I was sitting on the opening plenary of the Financial Opportunity Center 20th Anniversary Convening in Chicago. We had just finished our portion of the panel. I was settled into my seat, fully expecting the conversation to move on to the next part of the program. Then the CEO of Jane Addams Resource Corporation, who was sitting on the plenary with me, paused to thank me for the years of work I had given to this model. And before I could fully take in what she was saying, the room rose.

A standing ovation.

I do not remember a lot of details about my body in that moment. I think I may have looked down. I do remember the surprise. And I remember this very clearly. I cried. A few moments later, I was handed a welded plaque that one of JARC’s instructors had created by hand. The weight of it. The craftsmanship of it. The symbolism of it. It was almost more than I could carry standing up. I wrote about that day at the time in Honoring Legacy, Living Purpose, but I was not yet ready to write about what came after.

I have thought about that moment many times since. Not as a trophy. Not as a milestone. But as a question I have been quietly sitting with.

What does it mean to be seen, and what do we do when we are?

Because here is what I have noticed about myself. When recognition like that comes, I do not always know what to do with it. And much more often than I would like to admit, what I do with it is move past it. I share these reflections today because I do not think I am alone in this. I think there are many of you reading this who have been quietly building something meaningful for years, and when the recognition finally comes, something in you wants to set it down quickly and get back to the work. I want us to look at that pattern together. Because I do not believe it is serving any of us.

The Quiet Disappearance

Here is what the rushing past looks like for me. Sometimes I do not share the moment at all. The recognition happens, and I let it stay in the room where it happened. I do not post about it. I do not bring it up in conversation. I do not include it in the next email or the next update or the next reflection. It happens, and then it just lives in my own memory. Other times, someone else shares it. A colleague brings it up. A friend mentions it in a group. And in those moments, I say thank you, and very quickly I move us to the next topic.

I have done this for years. If I am honest with myself, I have not done it because I am afraid of being seen. I have done it because being seen has felt almost beside the point. The work was the thing. I did not do the work to be recognized for it. I did it because it mattered. And when the recognition comes, it can feel like a small detour from what actually matters, which is the work itself.

There is also another piece I want to name honestly. Sometimes pausing to share recognition feels self-promotional. And even though I know that is not what it would actually be, the thought of it still keeps me quiet. I share this not because I think I have it figured out, but because I am still learning this. And I suspect some of you are too.

Why We Shrink

When I have sat with this pattern long enough to be honest about it, I have come to recognize a few things that are true for me. They may be true for you too.

Visibility feels exposing when you have done quiet work for years. When you have spent a long time in the behind-the-scenes work of building, supporting, mentoring, advocating and serving, the spotlight feels foreign. Not because you do not deserve it, but because you are not used to it. The body remembers the shape of the work it has been doing. And quiet, faithful work has a particular shape. Stepping into recognition asks you to take on a different shape, even just for a moment, and that takes some adjustment. This is something I have been slowly learning to navigate, including in the lead-up to my first global speaking moment, which I wrote about in Ready Enough: What Happens When You Stop Waiting.

Receiving is harder than giving. Most women I know are practiced givers. We pour into our families, our teams, our communities, our clients, our missions. We know how to hold space for other people’s growth, other people’s celebration, other people’s wins. We are far less practiced at being on the receiving end. And being seen is a form of receiving. So when it comes, we sometimes do not know what to do with it because we have not built the muscle.

There is a fear of being seen as proud or as taking too much space. This one is real, and it is especially real for women in leadership. We have absorbed messages our whole lives about how much room we are allowed to take. And even when we know intellectually that being recognized is not the same as being prideful, the residue of those messages can still make us shrink. We can find ourselves softening our wins, qualifying our accomplishments or simply not naming them at all so we do not appear to be taking more than our share.

None of these reasons make us weak. They make us human. And they make us women who have been navigating a world that has not always known what to do with us when we step into the fullness of what we have built.

The Faith Layer

There is one more thing I want to name carefully, because it is true for me and I suspect it is true for some of you.

As women of faith, we have been taught well to give God the glory. And that is right and good. The work I do, the words I write, the moments I have been honored in, none of that exists apart from the One who called me to it. I know that, and I want to live that. But here is something I have noticed in myself, and I want to be honest about it. Sometimes I use giving God the glory as a way to skip past the moment instead of letting it land in me. The recognition comes, and I hand it off so quickly that it never has a chance to settle. I do not pause. I do not feel it. I do not let it shape me. I just route it past myself and keep moving. I am not sure that is what God is actually asking of me.

Giving God the glory and letting yourself be seen are not in conflict. You can do both. You were meant to do both. You can receive the moment fully, feel the weight of it in your body, let it reshape how you understand your own work and still know exactly who gave you the capacity to do that work in the first place. The deflection is not humility. The deflection is sometimes just another way of not receiving. And I am learning that receiving is part of the work, not a detour from it.

What We Miss When We Rush Past

When we rush past being seen, something is lost. And it took me a long time to be honest about what.

We miss the integration. Recognition has a way of reshaping our understanding of our own work. It tells us something we cannot tell ourselves from the inside. When someone reflects back to us what they have witnessed, we get to see ourselves through their eyes. That is not vanity. That is data. And when we rush past it, we lose access to it.

We miss the witness. The people who took the time to honor us did something meaningful. They paid attention. They chose to name it out loud. When we deflect too quickly, we are not just protecting ourselves from the discomfort of being seen. We are also unintentionally dismissing the gift they offered. Their seeing of us is worth honoring.

We miss the modeling. The women coming behind us, the team members watching us, the daughters and mentees and colleagues in our orbit, they are learning from how we receive. When we shrink, we teach them to shrink. When we receive with grace, we teach them they can too.

And here is the one that has been sitting with me most. We miss the chance to let God show us something through it. Sometimes the recognition is not just a nice moment. Sometimes it is God’s way of telling us something we have not been able to hear from ourselves. This matters. I see you. Keep going. When we rush past, we miss the message too.

What Sustainable Visibility Actually Looks Like

This year my word has been sustainable visibility. I have written about it as my intention for 2026, and it has shaped how I am showing up in every part of my work. But I want to be clearer about what it actually means in practice, because I think we sometimes confuse visibility with performance.

Sustainable visibility is not about posting more. It is not about being everywhere. It is not about claiming credit for everything or making sure your name is on the front of everything you touch. None of that is what I am talking about. Sustainable visibility is the practice of being seen and whole at the same time. It is letting the moment land when it comes. It is saying thank you and meaning it. It is staying in your body when someone is honoring your work. It is sharing the moment with the people in your life, not because you need them to validate it, but because part of what you are building is allowed to be witnessed. It is letting the recognition reshape how you understand yourself, not so that you can become arrogant, but so that you can become accurate. Receiving is its own practice, and like all sustaining practices, it has to be tended. I have written before about why we cannot pour from an empty cup and the same principle applies here. You cannot integrate what you do not let in.

You were not meant to do this work in the dark forever. The quiet seasons matter. The behind-the-scenes seasons matter. But there are also seasons of being witnessed, and those matter too. And when those seasons come, the invitation is not to shrink. The invitation is to receive.

A Word About the Next Time

I want to close with this, because I think it is the most useful thing I can leave you with. There will be a next time.

Maybe it is a small one. A colleague who says something kind in a meeting. A reader who emails you to tell you a post found them at the right moment. A friend who notices what you have been carrying. A coaching client who reflects back what you helped them see. Maybe it is a big one. A stage. A title. A piece of recognition you have been working toward for years that finally arrives.

When it comes, I want you to try something different this time. Do not rush past it. Do not deflect it. Do not change the subject. Do not move us to the next topic. Just for a moment, let it land. Say thank you, and mean it. Feel the weight of it in your body. Let yourself be seen. And then, if you want to, tell someone. Not to perform. Not to promote. But because part of what you are building is allowed to be witnessed, and you are allowed to honor what is being honored in you.

You were never invisible. The world is just slowly catching up to what God already saw.

So here is my question for you. What is one moment of recognition you have rushed past, and what would it look like to go back and let yourself receive it now, even quietly, even in your own heart, before the next one comes?

This season has been full in many good ways. I am continuing to grow Mission ENSPIRE, preparing for speaking engagements and managing the responsibilities of my leadership role in my day job. None of these things are new to me, and none of them are unwelcome. In fact, they are deeply aligned with my purpose. But alignment does not automatically guarantee sustainability, and that is where I have had to pause.

As leaders, especially as women who lead in multiple spaces, we often become very skilled at carrying a lot. We know how to show up. We know how to deliver. We know how to hold space for others while quietly managing our own expectations and responsibilities in the background. Over time, that capacity becomes something people rely on. Sometimes we rely on it too.

But just because we are capable does not mean we are always operating within healthy capacity.

I have learned that when my energy begins to shift, it rarely announces itself in dramatic ways. It does not usually look like burnout in the way we imagine it. More often, it shows up as subtle irritability, or a slower pace in my creativity, or a feeling that even meaningful work requires more effort than usual. It is less about collapse and more about erosion. And that is usually my signal to pay attention.

Recently, I did what I would describe as a quiet energy audit. I did not overhaul my calendar or make sweeping declarations. Instead, I asked myself a few honest questions. Where am I feeling energized right now? Where am I feeling stretched? Are there commitments I have taken on out of habit rather than intention? Are there places where I am defaulting to availability instead of alignment?

What I noticed was not catastrophic, but it was instructive. There were small “yeses” that did not fully reflect this season. There were moments where I had extended myself simply because I could. There were areas where I had not clearly defined what was mine to carry and what was not. None of those things were inherently wrong. But collectively, they were costly.

Energy, I am realizing more deeply, is not just about sleep or rest days, although those matter. It is about stewardship. It is about recognizing that my leadership, my creativity, my clarity and even my presence with my family are all connected to how well I manage what I allow to draw from me.

This month, I have been reflecting on this topic even more intentionally because I am one of the speakers inside MEE Month, and Week 2 of the experience focused on Energy. My session is titled Stop Pouring From an Empty Cup: Energy Boundaries for Women Who Lead, and in it I explore many of these same questions from a coaching perspective.

Even though Energy Week has passed, the sessions are available throughout the month, and I wanted to share this with you because I know how easy it is to normalize depletion when you are competent and committed. In my session, I talk about recognizing where energy is quietly leaking, setting boundaries that are sustainable rather than reactive, and reframing self-care not as indulgence but as leadership strategy.

If you have been feeling slightly off, slightly stretched, or simply more tired than your schedule seems to justify, this conversation may resonate with you.

As I continue reflecting on energy and alignment, I am also beginning to notice how closely connected this topic is to perfectionism. Sometimes we overextend not because we lack boundaries, but because we are trying to meet an internal standard that keeps moving. We tell ourselves we just need to do a little more, refine a little more, prove a little more.

This is not the first time I have wrestled with this tension. In From Perfectionist to Progress-Seeker: Embracing the Imperfect Journey, I began exploring what it means to loosen the grip of perfectionism. Next month, I want to explore that more fully and talk about what it really means to move from perfectionism to progress, and how releasing unrealistic standards can restore not only our confidence, but our capacity. Because protecting your energy is one step. Learning to stop holding yourself to impossible expectations may be the next.

So I did not post in December.
And I did not post in January either.

Instead, I chose to pause. And honestly, it was one of the most grounding decisions I have made in a long time.

In my coaching training, we spend significant time on a skill called active listening, specifically what is often referred to as Level 2 listening. It is the kind of listening where you are fully present with the person in front of you, not mentally preparing your response or thinking about what is next on your calendar. I teach this skill. I coach others on it. And still, during high pressure seasons, I catch myself slipping into distracted presence. That is why I close Teams during one on one meetings. It is a small boundary, but it matters. If notifications are popping up or my task list is visible, I am not fully there. I may look engaged, but my attention is divided.

December and January reminded me that sometimes we need to close more than just applications on our screens. Sometimes we need to close the expectation that we must always be producing, posting, or proving something in order to be valuable.

What the Pause Taught Me

When I gave myself permission to step back from writing, something unexpected happened. Instead of feeling behind, I felt grounded. Instead of feeling guilty, I felt clear. I rested without feeling like I had to earn that rest through productivity. What surprised me most was this. The pause did not disconnect me from my purpose. It deepened it. By allowing myself space, my reflections became clearer and more honest. I was reminded that sometimes the most courageous thing we can do is trust that our work will still be there when we are ready, and that our commitment is not measured by constant output.

That pause extended into January, intentionally. Instead of rushing into the new year with plans and pressure, I attended the Elevate and Empower Retreat, a guided experience created for clarity, alignment, and intentional momentum. What I needed most was not another strategy. It was space.

Space to slow down enough to see what had been taking shape beneath the surface. Space to listen for how I wanted to show up, how I wanted to share my work, and how to protect my energy while doing it. And in that quiet, I realized something simple but powerful. I do not need to become someone new to move forward. I need to lead from who I already am, with consistency and intention. During the retreat, the focus was not urgency or reinvention. It was integration. I spent time bringing together parts of myself that I had unconsciously kept separate, my professional leadership and my entrepreneurial work. What became clear is that the next season of growth is not about pushing harder. It is about structure, focus and visible action that honors both my values and my capacity.

Ironically, this experience echoed something I created last year, a personal retreat guide meant to help others pause, reflect, and reconnect with themselves without needing perfect conditions. Sitting in a retreat space centered on my own business reminded me that the practices we offer others are often the very ones we are invited to return to ourselves.

I left January not with dramatic answers, but with clarity, alignment, and a renewed commitment to lead and share my work in ways that honor my energy, my values, and the season I am in.

Looking Back at 2025

As the pause created space, I found myself reflecting on the year that had passed. Not through a list of accomplishments or goals met, but through a deeper awareness of who I am becoming. Every year has its own rhythm. Some years are about building. Others are about releasing. Some are defined by visible milestones. Others by quieter internal shifts.

For me, 2025 was a year of finding my voice. Not the voice I use when facilitating or coaching, but my voice as a speaker and leader representing my own brand, and as someone willing to be seen. At the beginning of the year, I would not have used the word speaker to describe myself. Even though I facilitated. Even though I trained. Even though I stood in front of rooms leading conversations. I had not fully claimed it.

Today, I can say it clearly. I am a speaker.

That shift did not happen all at once. It happened through consistent, imperfect action. Month after month of showing up, speaking, and using my voice even when it felt uncomfortable. One way I stretched myself was volunteering to go first. On calls. In conversations. In spaces where it would have been easier to stay quiet. Going first did not always feel brave. Sometimes it felt exposed. But with each moment of practice, my confidence followed.

Courage came first. Confidence followed through repetition.

What deepened in 2025 is carrying forward into this year as I step into new speaking opportunities in February during MEE Month and join the Women Thrive Summit in March.

Leadership Growth and Responsibility

2025 also brought new leadership challenges in my role at LISC. I fully stepped into my position where I manage people leaders. I do not directly own the work, but I am accountable for outcomes. That responsibility carries weight. That weight is real, and some days it’s nerve-wracking. Some days, I wondered if I was guiding my team well enough. Other days, I surprised myself with the strength I didn’t know I had. Leadership has a way of showing you both your doubts and your growth at the same time.

What I learned is this: you don’t always feel ready. You second-guess. You compare. You wonder if you’re really walking in your purpose. But clarity doesn’t come first it comes from taking action.

This became especially clear in September when I participated in the Financial Opportunity Center® (FOC) 20th Anniversary National Convening here in Chicago. As I shared in Honoring Legacy, Living Purpose, that experience was both humbling and affirming. Leading a coaching practicum for twenty four participants, serving on the opening plenary panel, and receiving recognition from partners I deeply respect, including an unexpected standing ovation and a welded plaque from Jane Addams Resource Corporation, reminded me that the seeds we plant quietly year after year do take root.

That moment of being seen and acknowledged by my community taught me something important: we often can’t see our own impact until others reflect it back to us. And sometimes our greatest growth happens not in the spotlight moments, but in the decades of consistent showing up that come before them.

The Entrepreneurial Middle

If I am honest, 2025 was also challenging in my entrepreneurial journey. I have been building Mission ENSPIRE for four years. In 2025 progress felt slower than expected. There were moments when the question shifted from can I do this to can I keep doing this.

This is the part we do not talk about enough. The space between starting and thriving. Between momentum and mastery. Early courage is fueled by excitement. Sustained courage is fueled by discipline and trust. 2025 reminded me that courage is not only about starting. It is about staying. About continuing to show up even when results lag behind effort.

Releasing Recommitting and Redesigning

Now in February of 2026, I am intentional about what I carry forward. I am releasing the pressure to have everything figured out by now. Entrepreneurship does not follow a neat timeline. It follows a process. I am recommitting to using my voice consistently and to this space, Flourishing Fiercely, even when engagement feels quiet. Because I know these words reach the people who need them. I am redesigning my definition of success. In 2026, success includes consistency, courage, relationships and unseen impact. It includes honoring both my leadership role and my entrepreneurial calling as complementary expressions of the same purpose.

My 2026 Intention Sustainable Visibility

My intention for 2026 is sustainable visibility. Not visibility driven by urgency. Not visibility that leads to exhaustion.

Sustainable visibility means showing up in ways that align with my values and capacity. It means trusting that slow, intentional presence is enough. It means believing that I can be seen and whole at the same time. Publishing this post in February feels aligned with that intention. This is not about catching up. It is about beginning again with clarity.

So, here is my question for you. What are you releasing, recommitting to, or redesigning as you move through this year?

Here is to beginning again.
Here is to sustainable visibility.
And here is to continuing to flourish fiercely together.

Recommitment, Not Perfection

Recommitment isn’t about pushing harder or catching up. It’s about doing what matters. It’s not about hustle, guilt or chasing perfection. It’s about realigning with your purpose and giving yourself permission to begin again. Maybe there’s something you started earlier in the year that deserves one more try. Or maybe your priorities have changed, and it’s time to release a goal that no longer fits. I’ve been there more than once, realizing that the thing I was chasing no longer aligned with who I was becoming. Letting go wasn’t failure; it was an act of grace that opened space for what was next.

If you’ve felt behind, remember what we explored in From Perfectionist to Progress-Seeker: Embracing the Imperfect Journey. Growth is not linear. Every step forward is a step toward the life you’re building. Recommitment means meeting yourself where you are, not where you think you should be. It’s choosing progress over pressure, alignment over achievement.

Choosing What Still Matters

Take a moment and ask yourself: What do I most want to experience before this year ends? What would make me proud when I look back on 2025? You don’t need a dozen goals. You only need one or two that truly resonate; the ones that light a quiet spark inside you. The rest can be released with gratitude.

A few years ago, I learned the power of releasing what no longer serves me. I had a business goal that looked great on paper but felt completely off in practice. Once I let it go, I found room for something more authentic and energizing. Sometimes the real breakthrough comes not from doing more, but from letting go and making space to breathe.

Small Steps, Big Shifts

If that spark feels dim, start small. Micro-goals and mini-habits can help you regain momentum when energy feels low. I’ve written before in The Power of Tiny Steps about how ten minutes of focus a day can create lasting change. Whether it’s a quick journaling ritual, a weekly walk or reaching out to a friend, small steps add up. One of my favorite practices is a “three wins a day” reflection which is taking a few minutes each evening to acknowledge progress, no matter how small. Those moments remind me that growth is still happening, even in seasons of transition.

Finding Focus and Support

If you’re feeling distracted or uncertain, you’re not alone. This time of year can stir both reflection and fatigue. That’s why having a structure, even a simple one, helps. For me, recommitment often begins with a reset moment, where I pause, breathe, and ask what I want to feel by year’s end.

That’s what inspired the Reset & Reignite Masterclass. It came out of one of those very moments when I felt stretched thin and needed to recenter before moving forward. In that workshop, I guided participants through exercises to help them identify what’s fueling and what’s draining their energy, realign their goals with their capacity, and use gratitude as a growth tool. You can still experience the impact of that session through the Reset & Reignite Momentum Pack, which includes limited replay access, a 30-day printable planning journal and a coaching-style email series to help you stay focused, inspired, and aligned with what matters most.

A Ritual for Recommitment

If you’re ready to refocus, here’s something simple and grounding. Write a letter to your future self dated December 31, 2025. Describe how you want to feel as this year ends, what you’ll be proud of, what you’ve learned and what you’ve let go of. Then tuck it away and set a reminder to read it at on New Year’s Eve. It’s a gentle, personal way to stay connected to your intentions. Or, if you’re a visual person, create a “last quarter” vision board. Gather images, words, and phrases that capture how you want to close the year. Let it be a reflection of who you’re becoming.

Flowing Into What’s Next

As we move toward the year’s end, remember that every step forward is an act of courage and self-leadership. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You only need to keep showing up for yourself. Give yourself permission to realign, recommit and finish this year with clarity, confidence and grace. Next month, we’ll turn toward gratitude and reflection as we prepare to close out the year together. Until then, keep tending to your growth. You are worthy of a strong and intentional finish.

As you close out this year, what intention are you recommitting to and how will you honor that commitment to yourself in the weeks ahead? I’d love to hear your reflections in the comments below. 

Perhaps this year has been full of bold steps forward or maybe it has been a quieter season of inner work and personal transformation. Maybe you began with clear goals, only to realize that your journey had its own rhythm. Wherever you find yourself, this is your moment to harvest the lessons, growth and grace that have been growing all along.

Why Reflection Matters

Reflection is one of the most powerful tools we have for personal growth. It allows us to make meaning of our experiences, to see patterns in how we show up and to recognize the resilience we often overlook in the rush of daily life. October offers a gentle reminder to slow down before the year’s final stretch. It invites us to pause long enough to see the ways we have stretched, evolved, and stayed the course. This kind of intentional reflection isn’t about perfection or achievement; it is about awareness and appreciation. It reminds us that growth happens in the moments between our big wins, in the choices we make quietly and in the lessons we learn when plans shift.

Throughout this year on my blog I have explored how courage fuels confidence, how hope sustains us through transition and how growth often begins with belief in ourselves. I have talked about course correction, about the power of letting go and about reigniting purpose when burnout tries to dull our spark. Now, in this season of gathering and gratitude, it feels right to pause and honor the ways those lessons have taken root.

Guided Reflection: Harvesting Your Wins

I invite you to take a few moments for yourself this week. Find a quiet space, pour your favorite fall beverage, and bring your journal or simply sit with your thoughts. Consider these prompts as a way to reflect on how this year has unfolded for you:

• What am I most proud of accomplishing since January?
• What unexpected lessons or strengths have emerged?
• Where did I pivot, and what did I learn from it?
• What small wins deserve celebration?
• What am I ready to release as the year winds down?

As you move through these questions, notice what feelings arise. Notice where gratitude appears naturally and where resistance lingers. Reflection is not about judging what has or has not been done. It is about acknowledging what is, the courage it took to keep going, the effort behind each decision and the grace in simply continuing to show up.

If you find yourself craving a deeper space to reflect, my Personal Retreat Guide is a resource created exactly for that. It offers gentle structure, journaling prompts, and practices to help you slow down, reconnect, and listen inward. Whether you take an hour or a weekend, this intentional pause can help you see your growth with fresh perspective.

The Value of Imperfect Progress

It is easy to measure progress by what we can check off a list, but some of the most meaningful growth happens quietly. Maybe you learned to set a boundary that once felt impossible. Maybe you asked for help when you normally would have carried everything alone. Maybe you simply learned to rest without guilt. Those are wins worth celebrating. Progress is not always a straight path. Sometimes we take a step sideways or even back, only to find it gives us a better view of where we are meant to go next. The truth is, imperfect progress is still progress. Every pivot, pause and redirection teaches us something valuable about who we are becoming.

When I reflect on my own year, I think about the moments that stretched me most; times when I had to trust that slowing down would not mean losing momentum. There were projects that unfolded differently than I expected, but in that space, I found clarity and creativity. The lessons were not always easy, but they were necessary. They reminded me that growth often shows up disguised as change.

If this year has felt more like steady planting than a full harvest, trust that the seeds you have sown are doing their quiet work beneath the surface. You may not see all the results yet, but that does not mean progress is not happening.

Gratitude as a Growth Practice

Reflection naturally leads us to gratitude not the surface kind that skips over struggle, but the deep gratitude that comes from seeing meaning in our experiences. Gratitude grounds us. It reminds us that growth is not measured only by outcomes, but by awareness, perspective and grace. Take a moment to name three things you are grateful for this year. Maybe it is a renewed sense of courage, a relationship that grew stronger or simply the resilience to keep showing up through uncertain seasons. Let that gratitude soften you. Let it shift how you see your progress. Gratitude also helps us close chapters with peace. As the year winds down, allow gratitude to help you release what no longer serves you. The act of letting go; whether it is unrealistic expectations, old fears or the need to have everything figured out; makes space for what is next to take root.

Creating Space to Reflect and Reconnect

If you are feeling the pull to go deeper, I encourage you to create a personal retreat moment for yourself. This does not require travel or elaborate planning. It can be as simple as setting aside a morning or afternoon to pause and breathe. The Personal Retreat Guide offers a framework for doing just that. It includes prompts, reflection exercises and gentle encouragement to help you quiet the noise and listen inward. Whether you spend two hours or two days, the time you give yourself to reflect is never wasted. It is how clarity, confidence and renewed purpose take form.

A Season of Acknowledgment

October reminds us that reflection and renewal can happen side by side. It’s a time to celebrate how far you’ve come while staying open to what’s next. It is also about integration, gathering the wisdom from all that has unfolded and preparing to carry it forward. You do not need to have it all figured out. Growth rarely happens in a straight line and success is not measured by how perfectly everything unfolds. What matters is that you keep choosing to grow, to reflect, and to remain open to possibility. This is your season to honor your journey. To acknowledge how far you have come, even if you are still becoming. To see the courage, confidence, and hope that have carried you to this moment.

As you move through this month, I invite you to reflect: What lessons or wins are you harvesting from this year so far? What wisdom do you want to carry with you into the next season of your growth?

Take time to celebrate those answers. You deserve to honor the progress that brought you here.

For me, one of those moments happened earlier this month at the Financial Opportunity Center® (FOC) National Convening held right here in Chicago. The theme of the conference was Strength in Community: Together We Rise, and from the very first session, I felt the truth of those words. This convening felt especially meaningful as it marked twenty years of the FOC model, a celebration of growth, learning, and community impact. This theme of growth and renewal has been a thread through much of my work, both in writing and in practice; exploring how purpose evolves through every new season of leadership.

The FOC model has always been about more than financial empowerment. It is about transformation that ripples through families, neighborhoods, and entire communities. For nearly two decades, I have been deeply connected to this work, helping to strengthen and expand the model while witnessing its profound impact on people and communities. Being part of this convening felt like both a celebration and a full-circle moment.

Leading and Learning in Community

My conference duties began with leading a coaching practicum for a group of 24 participants. Coaching is not just something I do; it is a core part of how I live my purpose. Being able to train and guide others in the principles of coaching, especially in the context of supervision and leadership, always reminds me of why I began this work in the first place. It also reminded me of the many conversations I have shared here about how leadership and personal growth begin with listening both to ourselves and to others. Training others in coaching also reminds me how powerful it is to pause, listen, and help people unlock their own insight. Coaching is not simply about asking powerful questions or setting goals. It is about creating space for people to hear themselves, recognize their strengths, and reconnect to their own wisdom and capacity for growth.

I had the honor of participating in the opening plenary, Celebrating our Legacy, Charting our Future: Two Decades of Opportunity and Community Transformation. Sitting alongside other distinguished panelists, we reflected on the history of the FOC model, shared pivotal moments, and lifted up the stories of transformation that remind us why this work matters. We spoke about the evolution of the model and the lessons learned along the way. What struck me most was how consistently individual empowerment has created community impact. When one person builds financial stability, it strengthens families. When families stabilize, entire communities thrive.

A Moment I Will Never Forget

At the end of our portion of the panel, something unexpected happened. The CEO of one of our longtime community partners, Jane Addams Resource Corporation (JARC), who was also on the plenary with me, paused to thank me for my years of work with the model and the support I have provided along the way. To my complete surprise, the room rose to a standing ovation. Then, as if that was not enough, I was presented with a welded plaque that one of JARC’s instructors had created. The beauty of it, the weight of it, and the symbolism behind it left me completely overwhelmed. In that moment, I could not hold back the tears.

I am not often caught off guard in professional settings, but this recognition touched me deeply. It was not just about the plaque. It was about being seen and having my contributions acknowledged by people I admire and respect. It was about the reminder that the seeds we plant quietly, year after year, do take root, and sometimes they bloom in ways we could never imagine.

Another highlight of the convening was the keynote address by Mia Birdsong. She spoke powerfully about the connections that sustain us and the truth that our communities will show up for us when we need them most. Her words resonated deeply as I reflected on the spirit of this 20-year celebration. Purpose may be what drives us forward, but community is what carries us when we need reminding of why we started. The convening’s theme, Together We Rise, came alive in that moment and throughout the week, reminding me that while individual effort matters, it is the collective strength of community that makes transformation possible.

Legacy, Leadership, and Gratitude

I sometimes get asked how I have stayed at LISC for so long. For those who do not know, it has been 18 years, and I have many reasons. But in my top five are my colleagues and our partners. The images above and below this section reflect some of them. They represent people who have not only shared this journey with me but have shaped it. These relationships and shared milestones bring to mind what I expressed in From Pen to Purpose: A Year of Personal Growth Through Blogging, about how reflection helps us honor where we have been and embrace what lies ahead. Also in my top five is the impact itself, the real, tangible change that this work creates. The 20-year anniversary of the FOC model reflects that impact. It is a celebration of what happens when people, organizations, and communities commit to working together over time to create opportunity. Although I have passed the torch of leading the local FOC network to my very capable colleague, Sarai Garza, I am grateful to continue learning from her and to remain connected to the work. Watching her leadership and the new energy she brings to this space has been both inspiring and affirming. Leadership is not about holding on. It is about building capacity, mentoring others and creating space for new voices to shine.

Learning from Leadership

When I reflect on my own professional growth, I am reminded of the supervisors I have had during my time at LISC. Each one has taught me something invaluable about strategy, leadership, and big-picture thinking, and about the value of relationships that strengthen both people and purpose. I am deeply grateful for the leadership and guidance of Ricki Lowitz, Kevin Jordan, Susana Vasquez, Seung Kim and Meghan Harte, whose support and insight have shaped my journey in meaningful ways. Their mentorship has shaped not only my professional path but also how I show up as a coach, leader, and colleague. I have learned that leadership is both learned and shared, and that we grow by both guiding and being guided.

Honoring Legacy and Looking Ahead

The closing plenary of the convening honored the partners who have helped build and strengthen the FOC network over the years, recognizing partners who have left a lasting legacy, catalyzed change, innovated on the model, mentored others, and led the way for the FOC network. It was an opportunity to pause, celebrate, and honor the many people and organizations that have helped shape the last twenty years of impact. I was especially proud to recognize JARC for their lasting legacy and unwavering commitment to this work. Their leadership and innovation have made a real difference for the communities they serve.

Looking ahead, I am both reflective and hopeful. This convening reminded me that sustaining impact requires both continuity and renewal, honoring what has been built while making space for what is emerging. The legacy of the FOC model is not only about the past 20 years. It is also about the next 20, and how we continue to rise together through purpose, partnership, and possibility.

A Personal Note of Gratitude

I will carry the memory of that standing ovation and plaque with me for a long time. Not as a trophy, but as a reminder. A reminder that purpose is not something we live out alone. It is something that grows within us and through us, and then takes root in the lives of others. It is something that flourishes when it is held in community. For me, this convening was more than a professional milestone. It was a deeply personal reminder of why I launched Mission ENSPIRE in the first place: to create space for women, nonprofits, and faith leaders to rediscover purpose, overcome doubt, and walk fully in their potential.

Closing Reflection

As I look back on my journey, the experiences, the people, and the milestones, I am reminded that purpose is not static. It grows through connection, collaboration, and commitment. I am proud of the role I have played, grateful for those who have walked alongside me, and excited to see how this work continues to evolve in the years ahead. Because in the end, that is what true strength in community looks like. It is the ability to honor where we have been, celebrate who we have become, and keep building toward what is possible together.

As you reflect on your own journey, what moments have reminded you of your purpose? Who has helped you rise along the way?

If this reflection resonated with you, you may also enjoy Chapter 48: Embracing Growth, Gratitude, and New Possibilities, where I share lessons from another season of renewal and gratitude.

I remember when I launched Mission ENSPIRE, a vision that had been in my heart for a while. The idea of stepping out as an entrepreneur and creating a platform that empowered women and nonprofit leaders was both exciting and terrifying. I questioned whether I was truly ready, whether I had the resources, and whether people would see the value in what I was offering. But I knew that if I waited until I felt fully ready, I would never take the leap. So, I set an intentional goal: to officially launch, establish my services, and build a community of support. Taking that first step was daunting, but each milestone—from my first client to my first workshop—helped reinforce that this was the path I was meant to walk. Looking back, I see how that one decision transformed my confidence and leadership in ways I couldn’t have imagined.

Why Intentionality Matters in Goal-Setting

Many people set goals, but not all goals lead to real change. The difference lies in intentionality—the conscious decision to pursue a goal because it aligns with your deeper purpose. Intentionality ensures that you’re not just busy, but productive in ways that matter. Think about a time when you set a goal but didn’t follow through. What happened? More than likely, it wasn’t because you lacked ability, but because the goal wasn’t deeply connected to what truly motivated you.

Characteristics of Intentional Goals:

• They align with your values and long-term vision.
• They challenge you to grow while remaining achievable.
• They have clear, actionable steps.
• They allow flexibility for learning and adjustment.

Intentional goals help us focus on what truly matters instead of getting caught up in distractions or societal expectations. As Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.” Aligning your goals with a deeper purpose brings clarity and direction.

Overcoming Common Roadblocks to Taking Action

Even with the best intentions, we all face challenges when trying to achieve our goals. Here are some of the most common roadblocks and how to overcome them:

• Fear of Failure – Many people hesitate to take action because they fear making mistakes. But failure is not the opposite of success—it’s part of the journey. Instead of seeing setbacks as signs to stop, view them as opportunities to learn and adjust.
  • Reframe your mindset: Instead of saying, “What if I fail?” ask, “What can I learn from this experience?”
  • Scriptural encouragement: Isaiah 41:10 says, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.” Let faith guide your steps.
  • One of the biggest roadblocks I faced was fear of failure when stepping into public speaking. I have always felt comfortable facilitating and training, but when I was asked to speak at a major event, self-doubt crept in. Would my message resonate? Was I qualified enough? That fear nearly held me back, but instead of letting it paralyze me, I broke the goal into smaller, manageable steps. I practiced, sought feedback from trusted mentors, and reminded myself that I was called to this moment for a reason. The event was a learning experience for me. While I did okay, I realized there were areas I could improve. But instead of seeing it as a failure, I treated it as a steppingstone. It reinforced the lesson that courage isn’t the absence of fear—it’s moving forward despite it and learning along the way.
• Lack of Clarity – If your goals feel overwhelming or vague, break them down into smaller, actionable steps. The clearer your goal, the easier it is to take the first step.
  • Practical tip: Use the SMART goal framework—Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound.
• Procrastination – Sometimes, we delay taking action because we’re waiting for the “perfect” time. But progress isn’t about perfection; it’s about consistency.
  • Practical tip: Set micro-goals to build momentum. Commit to just five minutes of focused work, and you’ll often find it easier to continue.
• External Pressures and Distractions – It’s easy to get sidetracked by other people’s expectations or daily distractions. The key is to regularly revisit your goals and remind yourself why they matter.
  • Practical tip: Create a vision board or journal to keep your goals top-of-mind.

Practical Steps to Move from Vision to Action

1. Define Your Why – Why does this goal matter to you? Connecting your goal to a deeper reason will increase your commitment.
   • Example: Instead of saying, “I want to get healthier,” clarify, “I want to improve my health so I can have more energy and longevity for my family and purpose.”
2. Write Down Your Goals – Studies show that people who write down their goals are significantly more likely to achieve them.
   • Tip: Keep your goals somewhere visible as a daily reminder.
3. Create an Action Plan – Break down your goal into smaller steps and set deadlines for each milestone.
   • Example: If your goal is to write a book, set a schedule for outlining chapters, writing drafts, and revising content.
4. Build Accountability – Share your goals with a trusted friend, mentor, or coach who can provide encouragement and hold you accountable.
   • Tip: Join a mastermind group or community where you can support one another.
5. Track Your Progress and Adjust – Regularly reflect on what’s working and what needs adjustment.
   • Journal prompt: What progress have I made in the last month, and what is my next best step?
6. Celebrate Small Wins – Acknowledge progress along the way to stay motivated.
   • Example: If your goal is to improve public speaking skills, celebrate each presentation or speech you complete, even if it’s a small one.

Faith and Vision: Trusting the Process

As you move from vision to action, remember that success is a journey, not an overnight event. There will be setbacks and moments of doubt, but perseverance is key. Romans 8:28 reminds us, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Trust that your efforts, when aligned with your faith and purpose, will lead to meaningful growth.

Putting Vision into Motion

Taking the first step can feel overwhelming, especially when we’re stuck in patterns of perfectionism or fear. That’s something I continue to work through myself—learning to embrace progress, not perfection, as I shared in From Perfectionist to Progress-Seeker. Growth doesn’t happen all at once; it unfolds in small, meaningful ways. Those micro habits, those tiny shifts? They matter. I wrote more about that in The Power of Tiny Steps, where I explored how even five minutes of effort can build the momentum you need. Pairing those small actions with courage, as discussed in The Courage-Confidence Connection, transforms hesitation into forward motion.

Throughout this past year, I’ve leaned deeply into intentionality, gratitude, and purpose—as reflected in Chapter 48: Embracing Growth, Gratitude, and New Possibilities. And at the core of it all is mindset. Positive Mindset and Growth reminds us that before we see change outside, we must nurture belief within. That’s why I’m inviting you to take one intentional step—just one—that moves you closer to the life you envision. Write the goal. Make the call. Show up. Let each action be anchored in belief and purpose. Because with every step you take, no matter how small, you’re building a life aligned with your values, your courage, and your vision. In the next post, we’ll explore how to deepen your self-belief and cultivate the mindset that carries you forward—even when doubt or fear show up along the way.

So tell me, what’s one step you can take today to move closer to the life you envision?

Why Hope Matters for Growth

Many of us associate hope with optimism, but it is much deeper than simply expecting good things to happen. Hope is the mindset that keeps us going when challenges arise. It is the bridge between where we are now and where we want to be. Without hope, it becomes easy to fall into stagnation, fear, or even burnout. Think about a time in your life when you faced a significant obstacle. What kept you moving forward? Likely, it wasn’t just external circumstances but an inner belief that things could improve. Hope allows us to see beyond our current struggles and envision a future where growth is possible.

Hope fuels growth in these key ways:

• It strengthens resilience – When things don’t go as planned, hope keeps us anchored, allowing us to pivot and keep pushing forward.
• It encourages action – When we believe in the possibility of success, we are more likely to take the necessary steps to make it happen.
• It fosters creativity and problem-solving – Hopeful individuals are more open to new possibilities and are willing to explore different approaches to achieving their goals.

As Romans 12:12 reminds us, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” Hope is not passive; it requires us to persist even in difficult seasons.

The Connection between Hope & Courage

Courage and confidence, themes we’ve discussed in previous posts, are closely intertwined with hope. Hope provides the foundation for courage—without it, stepping outside of our comfort zones would feel impossible. When we take risks, whether in our careers, personal lives, or leadership roles, we do so because we believe there is something worthwhile on the other side. I remember a time early in my career when I was presented with an opportunity to lead a major project. I doubted myself, questioning whether I was truly ready. But deep down, I held onto the hope that I could rise to the challenge. That hope gave me the courage to take the leap, and through that experience, I gained confidence in my abilities.

More recently, I had a deeply personal and powerful reminder of this connection between hope, courage, and action. Last year, I passed up the opportunity to apply to be a speaker at a summit during Women’s History Month because of fear, comparison, and the nagging belief that I wasn’t ready. By the time I finally built up the courage to submit my application, the window had already closed. Still, I tuned in to listen to the summit speakers—and their words were incredible. I walked away feeling inspired and equipped with new insights, tips, and actionable strategies. But even more, I left with a renewed sense of hope. I told myself that the next time the application opened, I wouldn’t let fear take the lead. So, when applications opened this year for next year’s summit, I was ready. I started working on mine immediately and submitted it on Sunday, March 23rd—which happened to be my mom’s 75th birthday. She passed away in December 2014, and this day is usually filled with sadness and memories. But this year was a little different because at 9:00 AM, I hit submit, and instead of sorrow, I felt deeply accomplished and I was reminded of my Mom’s faith and her perseverance and hope for my future. It was as if hope had transformed a day of mourning into a moment of meaningful progress. Earlier this week, I received the news that my application was selected to move to the interview stage. The organizers saw something unique in my submission, and they’re eager to connect with me virtually. That’s the power of hope—it fuels courage, opens doors, and allows us to walk forward into opportunity even when we’re not sure of the outcome.

If you’re feeling stuck or hesitant about pursuing something new, ask yourself: What would I do if I truly believed in the possibility of success? That’s the power of hope—it challenges us to dream bigger and act with courage. As Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Hope and faith go hand in hand, allowing us to move forward even when we don’t have all the answers.

Practical Strategies to Cultivate Hope

While hope is a powerful force, it doesn’t always come naturally. Life’s setbacks, disappointments, and challenges can sometimes dim our sense of possibility. However, like any mindset, hope can be cultivated with intention. Here are a few strategies to help strengthen your sense of hope:

• Reframe Negative Thoughts: When faced with difficulties, practice shifting your perspective. Instead of thinking, “This is never going to work,” try, “What can I learn from this experience?” or “What’s another way forward?”
• Surround Yourself with Positive Influences: Hope is contagious. Seek out people who inspire and uplift you. Engage with books, podcasts, TED Talks, and conversations that reinforce optimism and possibility.
• Reflect on Past Wins: Take a moment to think about past situations where things turned out better than expected. What helped you navigate those moments? Reminding yourself of past resilience can reignite hope.
• Take Small, Consistent Steps: Sometimes, we lose hope because we feel overwhelmed by how far we have to go. Instead of focusing on the entire journey, break it down into small, manageable steps. Progress, even in small increments, fuels hope.
• Practice Gratitude: Studies show that gratitude strengthens our sense of hope by shifting our focus from what’s missing to what’s already working. Take time each day to acknowledge what you’re grateful for.
• Visualize a Positive Outcome: Spend time imagining yourself successfully reaching your goals. Visualization is a powerful tool that strengthens belief in our ability to achieve what we set out to do.

Jeremiah 29:11 affirms this truth: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Trusting in this promise allows us to lean into hope, even when the path ahead seems uncertain.

How to Channel Hope into Action

Hope without action is just a dream. The real magic happens when we take our hopeful mindset and translate it into tangible progress. Here’s how you can turn hope into meaningful action:

• Set Clear Intentions: What are you hoping for? Be specific about what you want to achieve and why it matters.
• Create a Plan: Hope thrives when paired with a strategy. Outline actionable steps that will move you closer to your vision.
• Celebrate Small Wins: Recognizing progress along the way reinforces hope and motivates continued action.
• Adjust as Needed: Hope isn’t about blind optimism; it’s about adaptability. If something isn’t working, be willing to adjust your approach rather than give up.

Hope as a Driving Force

As we step further into this year, I encourage you to reflect on where hope plays a role in your life. Are there areas where you’ve been holding back because you’re unsure of the outcome? What would it look like to move forward with a renewed sense of possibility? Hope is not passive—it is an active force that fuels resilience, courage, and growth. By intentionally cultivating hope and pairing it with action, you can unlock new levels of confidence and possibility.

So, what’s one hopeful action you can take this week or next? Let’s embrace the power of hope together and continue to build a life of purpose and impact.