Confidence: The Ultimate Procrastination-Buster

I get it, for so many of us (myself included!), low self-esteem and procrastination are kind of an endless cycle. We avoid challenging things because we don’t feel capable, which then reinforces those crummy self-doubting feelings when we fall short. Talk about a vicious loop, am I right? It can really do a number on our mental health over time. But here’s the thing – cultivating authentic confidence is one of the most powerful antidotes to chronic procrastination. Knowing your worth and believing in your abilities to problem-solve removes so much of that initial hesitation around tackling tough tasks. You start seeing possibilities instead of roadblocks.

And it’s not just about feeling good, although that’s certainly part of it! Confidence also gives you the freedom to not take things so dang seriously all the time. You don’t have to be the best or smartest. You can embrace all the ups, downs, and messy middles of being human without it demolishing your self-esteem. So how do we start building up this ultra-effective procrastination kryptonite? I’m glad you asked! Here are three hot tips:

• Stop the blame game: When self-doubt creeps in, it’s tempting to point fingers at others or your inner critic when challenges arise. However, by refusing to place blame, you release yourself to concentrate on finding solutions. Embrace responsibility for the aspects within your control, and witness how rapidly you transform into an unstoppable force.
• Adopt an “I can!” attitude: Whoa there, feisty one! That negative self-talk trying to convince you something’s too hard? Give it a lil’ hair tousle and say “Pfft, I’ve got this!” Choosing to approach everything with a can-do spirit stretches you in the best ways. You’ll amaze yourself with what’s possible.
• Rack up some wins: Nothing boosts confidence like checking things off the trusty to-do list, am I right? Make a point of following through on tasks to completion instead of leaving a zillion half-done things lying around. Wake up that unstoppable feeling by showing yourself what you’re capable of, one accomplishment at a time!

Self-confidence is such a gamechanger, my friends. Keep chipping away at those self-doubts by taking care of your self-esteem, and that nasty procrastination habit won’t stand a chance. Who’s ready to feel unstoppable?

Finding Your Inner Disciplinarian

You know what they say – discipline is a powerful thing! And I’m not just blowing motivational smoke here. Building true self-discipline is low-key one of the most transformative forces you can unleash in your life. Think about it – discipline is what allows you to push through challenges and resistance. To make wise choices that serve your greater goals instead of impulsive ones that derail you. To resist the endless temptations and cheap distractions that try to lure you off course. Without discipline, all the self-awareness and goal-setting in the world won’t amount to much. You might start svelte and motivated…only to watch those dreams slowly fizzle as your commitment wanes. Ugh, been there, am I right?

Building discipline is really about changing your habits – those subconscious behavioral patterns that can either undermine you or propel you forward with ease. By establishing new routines, setting up reminders and accountability systems, and celebrating small wins along the way, you’re essentially updating your brain’s programming. Over time, self-discipline starts feeling more natural, more hard-wired into your psyche. And those lingering inertia demons that used to stop you in your tracks get quieter and less powerful.

That’s why I challenge you to pick just ONE area of your life where you’d love to be more disciplined right now. Is it waking up earlier? Sticking to a workout regimen? Spending quality time on a personal passion project? Whatever it is, don’t aim for a massive overhaul just yet. Just a simple new habit, maybe something you can realistically pull off 2-3 times a week. Then watch what happens! Maybe you set a phone reminder to lace up for a walk after dinner. Or you make a checklist to follow each morning before heading to work. Or you use a habit tracking app to get satisfying burst of accomplishment every time you show up for yourself. Take those small, consistent wins and let them build momentum.

Another useful tool is journaling. The path to self-discipline is rarely linear, which is why journaling can be such a powerful ally. By taking a few minutes each day to reflect, celebrate small wins, and course-correct when you veer off-track, you’re actively reinforcing those new habits. Your journal becomes an accountability partner, a sacred space to work through resistance and realign with your “why.” Don’t underestimate the power of putting pen to paper, either. There’s something about physically writing out your thoughts, feelings, and commitments that encodes them deeper into your psyche. It’s a ritual, a practice in showing up for yourself consistently. Wondering how journaling can help beat procrastination?

The Pen(cil) is Mightier Than the Procrastination Monster

I know, I know – for some of you, that suggestion might elicit major flashbacks of being forced to keep a dear diary as a tween. Allow me to reframe this potent personal growth tool for you! Journaling is like having a totally judgment-free bestie to lean on whenever you need to vent, dream, or simply get your beautiful brainwaves untangled. It provides an outlet for processing all the thoughts and emotions that can so easily lead to stuckness and procrastination if left unattended.

But beyond that cathartic magic, journaling is also an A+ companion for mapping out your goals, breaking down overwhelming projects into smaller chunks, and celebrating every milestone along the way. It’s like a trusty trail guide leading you out of the procrastination canyon! Whether you use it to braindump your inner monologue, doodle your worries away, or meticulously bullet out your master plans, journaling empowers you to stay centered, intentional, and motivated as you forge your proactive path.

Maybe your journal becomes a sacred space to reiterate your deepest “why” whenever you feel willpower waning. Or maybe writing out a gratitude list reminds you of how far you’ve already come. However, you decide to leverage it, journaling is an incredibly powerful tool for both unearthing the roadblocks to your productivity and charting the way forward. Still don’t know where to start? Grab my  Monthly Planning Journal which is packed with prompts, goal-trackers, and creative exercises, it’s designed to be the ultimate self-reflection and productivity tool. With the self-awareness from journaling combined with the steadfast discipline we’re building, that proactive lifestyle is finally going to feel unshakeable!

The Proactive Pathway

Whew, what a journey we’ve been on this month, my Flourishing Fiercely readers! From debunking those pesky procrastination excuses to leaning into discomfort, building rock-solid discipline, and unlocking the power of self-confidence, we’ve covered serious ground. But now, as we approach the finish line of our “Procrastination” series, I hope one thing has become glaringly clear: embracing a proactive lifestyle isn’t just some lofty aspiration reserved for a select few high-achievers. Nope, this is a mindset, a way of being that’s available to every single one of us.

It starts with having the courage and self-assurance to stare down those fears and doubts that so often fuel our procrastination. To silence the inner critic whispering “you’re not good enough” and replace it with an unwavering belief that you’ve got this. From there, it’s about taking that self-confidence and channeling it into sustainable habits and routines that become your productive default. Not just white-knuckling it through sheer force of will, but systematizing discipline into your daily existence. Setting reminders, celebrating small wins, and showing up for yourself consistently.

And let’s not forget one of the most powerful tools in our arsenal for manifesting that transformation: the humble journal. By taking a few minutes each day to reflect, realign, and capture our commitments in writing, we’re actively reinforcing those new habits and growth mindsets. Your journal becomes an accountability partner, a sacred space to work through resistance and celebrate your small wins. It’s where the “Future You” takes shape through intentional reflection and goal-setting. Where the path to a more positive, productive lifestyle gets inked out, one day at a time. So, keep that journaling practice top of mind as we transition into our next monthly theme…because surprise! We’re going to be diving deep into the art of journaling itself. From practical tips to creative prompts, we’ll be exploring all the ways this simple ritual can level-up our self-awareness, mindfulness, and overall wellbeing. Show up as your best self, day after day. All that’s left is to walk through, with your head held high and journal in hand. Are you with me?

Picking up from last week’s theme, I wanted to share some additional tips for making discipline a habit.  Some of these may be familiar concepts to my regular readers–for example, accountability.  Accountability with a trusted friend, colleague, or family member can help with developing discipline.  Many people think self-discipline means doing it all on your own, but it does not mean that at all. In fact, having a coach, or a group, or an accountability partner can really help you to develop more discipline.  An example would be when someone puts off housework until they know someone is coming over, and they race around to get the house all tidy before their visitor arrives. It is far easier to give in and be less disciplined when you just have yourself in the picture. When you have a person or people hold you accountable, though, you are far more likely to make sure it happens.    

An accountability partner is someone you set up a contract with to hold each other accountable for reaching goals. This is a mutual pact and is probably the easiest to set up. The goals do not have to be the same ones, the point is to connect on a regular basis, often once a week, and share with each other how much you have accomplished.  The best way to do this is to break up the task into daily chunks and do each one each day so that you are not trying to finish up the project the night before you meet with your accountability partner.  (For more on accountability, check out this blog post from April 2023.)

Using Challenges to Develop More Discipline

One way you can develop more discipline is to use challenges. This makes it more like a game and less like a chore. Also there can be the element of friendly competition with others and having others help hold you accountable which improves your odds of success.  Challenges are very popular and you can find them in many places across the internet and social media. Or you can make up your own and share it with a group of people. However, you end up doing it is up to you.

When looking to see if a challenge will be useful to you, there are some factors to look for, so you can best benefit. Is the challenge realistic? You want to stretch yourself, but not to the point where it might be too difficult to succeed. For example you could challenge yourself to cook all your meals at home for the next 30 days in order to save money on take-out or restaurant food, but that might be challenging if, for instance, you have travel planned away from your home during that time, or if you have an especially busy few days with work, kids’ activities, or other family obligations on deck. You also want the challenge to not be too easy. You need to see if you have the time to devote to it. Be sure to include time for learning new things, for example if you challenge yourself to build a new blogging website in 30 days, remember that if you have never done one before, you will have to learn some things and that will be extra time above just writing the blog posts.  (Having launched this blog earlier this year, I am all too aware from personal experience the time it can take to learn new website-building systems! )  

If the challenge is a large one over a longer period of time, are there clear-cut milestones along the way to help you have a sense of accomplishment? If your challenge, for example, is to find a new job or change careers entirely, you may want to build in smaller steps and milestones along the way–such as making a list (written or mental) of what you’re looking for in your new career, writing or revamping your resume, researching job leads, networking informally or through informational interviews with people in the field you have your eye on, and so forth. 

When you do a group challenge, you have some added benefits. There is a sense of camaraderie when working together on a goal that you don’t get when just “competing” with yourself. Other people can give you ideas, too. For example, if you are in a group challenge focused on cooking more or eating out less, the group members can share recipes and support.

Organization Is a Major Tool in Developing Discipline

If you want to develop more self-discipline, it helps to get organized. Organization helps you feel less overwhelmed and makes it easier to get things done. You also can focus easier on your goals if you have a structure to both your day and your work environment.

For example, say you have a goal of writing a book. Lots of people want to write books, but many never end up finishing one–why? Because a monumental goal like that requires discipline and organization, and especially if there isn’t a fixed deadline imposed by someone else, it’s easy for our goals to fall to the back burner as day-to-day obligations get in the way. You cannot successfully write a book if you only write when you feel like it. You also are less likely to get much writing done if you are not organized. If your research for your book consists of pages that you have to search through every time you need something, or worse yet, find the notes buried in a pile of paperwork, you will find you spend more time on finding things instead of actually writing.

Scheduling your day is another way of organizing that will help you develop discipline. This is more than just having a to do list. You need to look at when you get up, when you go to bed, and block out times like work hours that cannot be used for accomplishing your goals. Then you need to take a look at the time left over and figure out how to best use it. One of the ways a lot of people add more time in their day is to get up an hour earlier and devote that time to their goals. Some people go to bed an hour later and use that time. Be realistic about how much time it takes to do the steps needed to accomplish your goal.

Organizing your workspace and your files on your computer are also ways to help you with developing discipline. By making sure you cut down on the time it takes for related tasks to accomplish your goals, you allow more time to actually do the work of the goal itself. To go back to the example of writing a book, if your research is well organized either in your workplace or in well-marked files on your computer, you will spend less time looking stuff up and more time actually writing. This will lead to faster writing as well since you are not interrupting the flow to spend time searching for something.   You will then be far more likely to actually finish writing that book. 

This is another example that really resonates with me from personal experience. In 2022 I was invited to contribute a chapter to The Entrepreneurs’ Toolkit for Success and I got a taste of the organization and discipline that writing required–and that was for a single chapter, not even a whole book!  Some of the tips and techniques that I described above really helped me stay on track, and I definitely plan to use them when I tackle my next writing goal of writing and publishing an entire book someday!  How have discipline and organization helped you get closer to achieving your goals?   

You set a goal and you’ve been doing well. Then you get to the point where it would be just a little too easy to backtrack or give up on your goal. You’re contemplating raiding the savings you’ve built up for something that’s more of a “want” than a “need.” Or if your goal was to start your own business, perhaps self-doubt is creeping in; the goal seems too hard or daunting. Maybe your motivation is slacking, and the initial excitement is starting to wear off. What do you do to stay on track toward your goal?

Be Accountable To Yourself

Start by being accountable to yourself—these are your goals, after all and the most important person to be accountable to is you! Write down your goals. Then keep track of how you’re doing.  One of my favorite tools for self-accountability is to keep a journal. There’s just something about the act of having to write it down that keeps me on the straight and narrow. You can keep an accountability journal for any goal you make.

Here are some ideas for things you may want to record in your accountability journal:

• Your baseline of where you started (for example, your savings at Day 1, or your credit card balance at the start of pursuing your goal, if you have a personal finance-related goal)
• Anything motivating that happened during the day that will keep you moving forward.
• Any challenges you faced and how you’ve overcome them.
• Any time you’ve gotten off track and what you can do to avoid it next time.
• How was your mood today and how did it affect your willpower?

Big goals are good things to have.  There’s nothing wrong with being ambitious.  But what if you’ve made a goal so big that you’re having a hard time motivating yourself to get started and/or keep going? Perhaps everything was going well for a few weeks, but then your motivation started to slip.  This is why coaches like me work with our clients to break that bigger vision and those ambitious goals down into smaller steps and along the way.  Think of it as a motivational hack. It’s all about setting mini goals that you can reach quickly. Here’s what can happen when you reach each mini goal along the way.

This is by no means an extensive list. Make it work for you. If you’re the creative type, add illustrations, get out your scrapbooking supplies and make it pretty. If that thought makes you cringe, keep it simple with a plain leather-bound journal and your favorite pen. You can even steal one of the notebooks from your child’s school supply stock and start there. If writing isn’t your thing, keep it simple. Start with just a few bullets of what you’ve done to get you closer to your goal and how you felt about it. It doesn’t have to be any more complicated than that.

Don’t limit yourself to pen and paper either. If you prefer not to write, then use your computer and keep a digital journal. You could even go public and start a blog. Who knows, your online accountability journal may help and inspire others!

Find An Accountability Buddy

Having someone with the same or similar goals to talk to can be very motivating. Find someone to become your accountability buddy. You can cheer each other on, share tips and check in to make sure you’re both still on track.  If you can’t find a local friend to join you, consider looking for your “buddy” online. There are forums and groups for all sorts of topics and you’re sure to find the right person to help you stay on track.

Be Accountable to Family and Friends

Another great option is to share your goals and intentions with loved ones. Let them know you’re trying to work out each week, sketch out the first draft of your business plan, or pay down credit card debt.  Getting it out there and knowing that you have loved ones checking in on you can really help to keep you going. Plus, they might become your biggest cheerleaders helping you celebrate each small success along the way.

Be Bold and Make a Public Statement

If you’re feeling brave or want that extra boost of accountability, be bold and make a public statement. Take to your favorite social media outlet and announce to the world at large what you plan to do. Knowing that your readers, followers, and/or friends are keeping up with your progress can help add a layer of accountability.

Find a Coach

Working with a professional coach can be a great way to not only get support on setting your goals, but on staying on track to achieve them.  Coaches like me are trained on techniques to help our clients stay accountable toward their goals and action steps—and, importantly, on how to hold our clients accountable in a supportive and non-judgmental way.  After all, we understand that life happens and sometimes we get off track with our goals! When that occurs, the important thing is not to beat ourselves up if we miss a milestone or fall off the wagon, but rather to figure out how to get going in the right direction again—and to think critically about why we got off track.  Maybe the goal, its smaller subgoals, and/or its timeline weren’t realistic, given everything else going on in your life. Perhaps after you started working toward that goal, you realized it wasn’t actually that important to you after all, and that’s part of what caused your motivation and progress to slow.  A trusted coach can help you revisit and revise your goals as needed as part of the accountability process.

I hope some of these accountability tips are helpful to you as you’re working on your goals.  Next week, we’ll conclude the April blog series on goals by talking about what to do when you complete your goal and how to keep your goal setting going over the long term.